Grief and loss

My son, Wyatt, was born 16/1/2025. We had 7, nearly 8, amazing weeks together before he was cruelly taken away from me. I woke up around 8:35am on the 12th of March to find my son white as a sheet, not breathing, no heartbeat. I knew he was gone, panic kicked in and I rang my mum before the ambulanc

So Many tears today.. had a d&c yesterday for my 8th loss. I have two boys and had 4 losses with my ex.. and 4 losses with my current partner..  I have a chromosome translocation so that is the most likely reason why. Our next step is looking at ivf.. to use preimplantation testing.  I really a

Hello ladies,  As you can tell my the title of my post I want to start a discussion on how others look after their mental health and wellbeing while either trying to conceive or after a pregnancy loss.  I have experienced both a a loss and continue to experience unexplained infertility (3.5 years)

My partner and I have just come home from the hospital after me not feeling our little one moving.  They had told us that our little angel had stopped growing at 23w and there was no heartbeat. I was admitted that night with high blood pressure so they were treating me for preeclampsia and believe

I had a D&C last night and just wondered for those who have had miscarriage testing of fetal tissue how long did it take before your doctor got the results? my second mc was tested too but I’ve forgotten how long it takes to get results! thank u x

I want to first start by saying I have not experienced a loss, so I apologise in advance if I say something triggering or hurtful. I am seeking advice for what could be a sensitive situation.  back story: at about 36w pregnant with my now 5 month old baby, I attended my nephew’s 2nd birthday party

We found out a couple of weeks ago our very much wanted, loved and planned for baby had severe brain and heart abnormalities.  We had several tests and an amino it showed the problems were caused because she has Trisomy 18. We decided straight away to terminate the pregnancy, however it too

It’s been 6 days since my son was stillborn at 21+4 weeks 💔 I’m completely broken, every part of me is just shattered 😪 I feel so empty. He should be safe and sound in my tummy still 😞 when will I feel joy again? I have a 6 year old and 18 month old and finding it so hard to stay strong around th

Hi all, I'm sorry to see those who are also dealing with loss. My husband and I lost our 2 year old , William to cancer just 4 months ago. During Wills treatment we were happy to find out that we were pregnant but sadly we also lost his little brother Henry , at half term due to a cord accident

We had a scan yesterday at 13 weeks and was told that they very strongly suspect triploidy (a rare chromosomal condition where most don't make it to birth and the few that do go straight into pallative care and survive only a few days). Either way, poor bub has so many issues that survival looks imp

I am currently going through my 7th loss in a row. We have two healthy children and have been trying for number 3 for two years now. Lost a baby at 11 weeks and another at 9 weeks. Have had 5 chemical pregnancies. I have been tested for everything under the sun and have a treatment plan in place,

I lost my baby between 7-8wks in Nov 2018. Against all odds of being told I couldn’t conceive easily it happened and now I find I am still struggling in a daily basis thinking about what we’ve been through and don’t know how long it will take to feel ok again. After wanting to fall pregnant straight

Our sweet daughter Eliza was born last Tuesday 12th March 2019 sleeping. She was 39+5 and at the moment we have no answers, all we know is that everything had been going perfectly during my pregnancy and the day before she had a perfect ctg.  I miss her so much, she was so beautiful.  I guess I’m ju

I probably will be ignored here.  But having recently lost a pregnancy. I feel like time isn't on my side.  The amount of comments i get about my age sends me in a pit of sadness. 

Hi All, I hope this will be received well, but I just wanted to share this with you all. My husband is fundraising for Bears of Hope, which is a charity that supports people and families who have experienced infant and pregnancy loss. He is growing his beard for the next few months in hopes to rais

Hello, just wanting to introduce myself and I guess get some support from Mumma’s that have been here before me. 3 weeks ago on the 9th of August 2020 we gave birth to our little boy Alfie at 17+3 after his little heart was found not beating after a demanded a scan.  Alfie was our surprise baby (nu

Hi everyone. Just experiencing my second miscarriage in a row and reaching out for specialised support. Was ok last time but really struggling this time, feel like I need answers. I am very very lucky to already have three beautiful children. Just have been praying so hard for this rainbow and they

Hi Ladies, On Sunday 6th December 2020 I went to the hospital for reduced movement with our baby girl. I laid on the hospital bed in the birth unit as they started to hook me up to find bubs heartbeat I never expected to hear those words "I'm so sorry there is no heartbeat". My whole world fell

I don’t know where else to post this and I can’t talk to anyone I know about it. My best friend and sister in law (same person) just found out she may be pregnant. I’m so ecstatic for her but I cannot help but feel super sad and sorry for myself. I have been ttc for 2 years for my first baby and ha

Hi, My husband and I lost our first baby due to Down's Syndrome yesterday. After the diagnosis came back from an amnio we did, we decided that it was better for us to suffer than for our child to suffer all of his life. I am not saying that this is the only answer to this diagnosis. I do understand

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It took a long time to get to this place but i do feel okay this year. It was a long and difficult road of grieving and i did still have a bit of a cry a few times this week but i am finally okay. Friends of ours are expecting a son around the same of time of year we were expecting our Jesse which i

hi..i tfmr in march this year, i then unexpectedly fell pregnant and miscarried two weeks ago.  Feeling pretty devastated and now concerned i won't be able to have another healthy baby, which is what i desperately want..not sure what to do,how to feel...feeling like i am going backwards in life

Hi ladies, bit of a back story- 2 much older children from a previous relationship, perfectly normal pregnancies. My hubby and I started ttc for our own and fell within 3mnths of being married but lost our little boy in Jan18 at 19weeks due to PPROM and bleeding on the placenta. Fell again within 3

I had my 3rd miscarriage in February. 4 weeks and 2 days ago I had a D&C but for the past 6 days I have had blood when I wipe and spotting on panty liner. some days it’s heavier than others but I’ve had almost no cramping. Im just wondering is this a very strange period or is this just my body

Triggers are everywhere when you loose your baby, the pregnant woman in the supermarket, your friends announcement or those emails that remind you how many weeks pregnant or how old your baby would be. A common complaint I see in support groups is reminders from an app/website called BabyCenter &

It’s 3am and I’m sitting here feeling like my world is falling apart. I can’t stop crying! I turn 30 in two days.. I’m meant to be having a party to celebrate and I’ll have to put on a brave face and stand around my family and friends as though my hearts not broken. I’m currently having a threate

Hi all,  I wanted to share my story as I know many of us are suffering in silence. A termination of a wanted pregnancy with down syndrome is not an easy choice to make, so for those women who do not agree please keep your negative comments to yourself as most ladies who had to go through this have

Hi Everyone,  I just thought I would try to connect with anyone who is on the same trying to conceive journey post a stillbirth or loss. I had a full term stillbirth earlier this year and my baby girl was born in May 2018. Grief is still a continuous journey we have to navigate and we have our ups a

You always hear stories that you can’t imagine people have been through and in that moment you wonder and hope that would never happen to you. Until it does.... about 4 days ago, my partner and my life was turned upside down. 17 weeks pregnant with the hope of new life and family and the excitement